Kvetch all you like. Then do the right thing. T-Shirt
Sometimes, stepping up, speaking out, schlepping the weight, even just showing up is an effort. So kvetch!* It's healthy! Express yourself! How else can you let other people know how you struggle?? It's your right to pour your heart out over your struggle. But the important part is that you Do The Thing anyway.
* Kvetch - (Yiddish) Verb: to complain, moan, sigh, tell tales of woe. "You mind if I kvetch a little to you?"
Noun: the person complaining. "I know, I can be such a kvetch."